non saudi female dating a saudi male, PLEASE ONLY SAUDIS ANSWER!?

Question

i just have some quick questions, i am a non saudi dating a saudi, what is the process we would have to go through to marry in saudi and some of the rules and laws and age at which he can marry a non saudi. what other information do i need to know in general, wether about saudi or saudi men? We love each other very much and i trust him with my life, we've known each other 4 years now and been dating 3 three years. I plan to convert to islam, NOT because he's making me!!! For my own reasons and beliefs! i understand when i move to saudi not only will i have to wear the hijab (islam) but also the abaya and niqab. i am looking forward to it! i am looking forward to moving to saudi. we have been through some hard times and awesome times we have seen the best and the worst of each other. i plan to learn arabic as i do not know it now. he is teaching me some, but i feel kinda silly and embarassed when i cant say them right lol. his family knew about me, but now thinks we are broken up only because his family doesnt want us to be together for fear that when i get to saudi i will just divorce him and leave and have a big huge divorce and fight because of the whole kid issue (if we have any). but he wants to tell them, because he wants to be able to marry me and take me to saudi. i would love to have kids with him, but i dont think we need any other problems! so im ok with not having kids for the sake of our relationship hes more imp to me than having anything else in this world! as i was saying, his family used to know about me and two of his brothers still do, but his parents and other siblings do not. but i DO NOT plan on leaving him when i get to saudi, i know the rules and restrictions there for women, and i plan to become very accustomed to it :) im very excited to the spend the rest of my life with him and live in a very strong islamic country. he lives in a little bit more laid back city, not riyadh.(sp). if we cant live in saudi, he wants to live in a country near by as do i. so its not like he is just trying to take me there and control me like all the other non muslim, americans like to think. i really dont wanna hear any stories that anyone thinks they know, cuz the only real and true info i can get is from a saudi themself and from someone who is in or has been in this situation. him and i have talked about it, but he didnt really explain in detail and i really dont want to constantly bug him about it, so ive come here looking for help :) we want to get married and live our lives together in saudi so bad! we are so tired of constantly having to be away from each other :(

please help :) and for those that wanna bash on this, please im begging just dont! im not being rude, but i have heard enough from my family and those around me! :( i love him i wanna move to saudi i know the REAL him altho some might try and say "oh u dnt until u get to saudi etc etc" and i am converting to islam on my own terms! islamic/saudi women are not opressed!

THANKS :) to those who are willing to answer me honestly and nicely :)

reasons for us wanting to live in saudi just incase anyone is wondering - of course im away from my family and of course they may not be able to visit, but i can visit them "him and i have already talked about all of this" hes gonna go with me to visit them woop woop :) .. anyways... his family and friends are there, and saudi is an islamic based country! i love it! and makes it amazing to be a muslim and practice islam there. i will be very sad if we cant end up moving there :( .. and its a gorgeous country! etc.. etc..etc... and JUST FOR US TO BE TOGETHER IN GENERAL! :) where we feel comfortable!!!


its not that his family dont like me, they really havent gotten to know me besides what they have asked him about me, its just they are afraid i get there dont like it cant take it, we get divorce and i leave him. i cant blame them for being afraid of that, but i wish i could put them at ease, and find a way to show them IM NOT GOING TO DO THAT! i love him so very much and could NEVER and HAVE NEVER felt this way about anyone else EVER!

Answer 1

My mother is an american woman married to a saudi man, (making me half/half)

I have hundreds of lady friends who are western women married to Saudis, from USA, UK, Australia, Europe, Japan, Brazil, and other places..

His family might be aprehentious at first only for the wellbeing of both of you, but they will warm up to you eventually.. All the women I know, their husbands families have.. My inlaws just love my mother and us..

You didnt mention the exact city you will be living in.. I live in Khobar.. ask your man about that town. its in the east, just near the huge toll bridge going over to Bhahrain (a tiny island country to the east in the persian gulf).. Khobar is the last saudi city before going over to Bahrain.. anyways.. its very westernized here.. Loads of americans here just because of Aramco oil company headquarters here.

you wouldnt have to wear a niqab here.. there are loads of saudi women who even dont wear it now. I dont, and my saudi female relatives, some do and some done.. its more relaxed than you think..

majority of people here speak english.. which is to my downfall cause I never learned a good strong working arabic cause everyone just starts jabbering in english to me.. hahahaha..

there is nothing wrong with having children.. I came from a saudi-american union and me and my elder brother are fine. (by the way, im 37) my children by proxy of me are now saudi-american also

Saudi's love large families.. (although I myself only have 2 children).. but family life here is valued, its something special and you'll soon learn that everything is geared towards families here..



Yes, you can marry your Saudi man.. and dont let anyone tell you it will be hell. it can be good.. I know first hand many of these marriages (including our family) are happy and fine..



but I suggest going through the government red tape himself. it will take time, but he will get it for you..

goodluck!

Answer 2

Sorry for answering as a none Saudi woman.



Why is your future Saudi husband whom you are dating since 3 (!) years not able to answer your questions and not able or willing to gather necessary requirements/information about a mixed marriage from the Saudi side?



Please use your brain (no offense please).

You won't get married in Saudi (how do you want to enter being single?)

He needs Gvt permission to get married to a non GCC national to have your marriage acknowledged in Saudi.

In case he is on a scholarship, he won't be able to get married outside to a none Saudi or loosing his scholarship.

Why should his family be concerned about a "huge" divorce and a "big" kid issue? Rules for this case are very clear and there isn't anything to fight about. In case you are an American you are allowed to leave Saudi with your kids and all others stay with the father. What to fight about?

A saudi man who doesn't want any children????



To make a long story short: if this guy (unless you are meeting online:) is serious about getting married, a) his parents would know and b) he would do everything possible to make this happen.

That at least is what my husband did.



All the best.

Answer 3

Just have him deal with the government directly. I worked as a lawyer in Saudi for 3 years (with expats, so I understand Saudi immigration quite well) and even I don't know.

Answer 4

Saudi girls cant stand non-saudi girls dating their men.



Im Saudi and cant wait to get the hell out of this country.





EDIT :



I'm not required to give you answers that you'd like to hear. I will give my answers however I want.



I'm telling you that most Saudi women don't like non-Saudi girls marrying Saudi men. Because in our culture, only a Saudi guy marries an outsider if he cant get one here, in other words; it is a sign of failure.



SA is no where an Islamic country, its a mixture of Saudi, and Arabian culture that is hidden behind the mask of Islam.

Answer 5

Sweety, u talk a lot !!!! try to summarize ur ideas again !!!



the only thing u need to worry about is >>>> Government permission !

the second thing his family's permission >> he can't marry you if his parents didn't accept that :(

actually he can,, but in our culture we don't do that, so our parents acceptance is important

and screw the siblings < don't care about their opinions

Answer 6

http://americanbedu.com/2011/12/01/saudi-arabia-male-students-on-an-international-scholarship

Answer 7

" I'm a Saudi and I am free to marry you if I want to. But my gov has to give me a premisson, please Email me"